..is what we love about summer. The chance to stare at boys with no tops on, wear sexy & stylish bikinis and get golden bronze tans. But are teen lives really all glitz and glamour 24/7? Most teens seem to be the envy of others, they are rich, get all the boys, and seem to have anything they want whenever they want. Girls compare themselves to them, feeling fat, ugly and unpopular.
So what if you weren't invited to that POOL PARTY of the year, that if you weren't invited you "missed out" and your soo "uncool."? Ignore those shallows ones who only care about being invited to all the latest, elite, cool parties, don't they have anything better to do with their life?
Every teen has a goal, it could be that they want to be more popular, more confident, richer, smarter etc. If you ask some of the teens that seem to have it all, before you start slagging them off and calling them spoilt, maybe you should actually think, what if they are doing all this so they can get attention that they never get at home? Maybe inside they wish they weren't as popular as they are or feel unloved?
Maybe their parents were just rich and they didn't want a life like that? Maybe they are just NORMAL like you are?
I am not one who gets jealous, I am happy in my own skin. But envy is a bad thing, comparing yourself to others is not going to make you feel better, it's going to make you feel much more worse. Get to know a person first before you judge them, under all that designer clothing and latest gadgets there could be a down to earth genuine girl who would really like true friends who are not after her money and popularity.
I've been in the situation before. Girls have made my life a misery because they were jealous, but there's no need to be jealous. Be happy with who you are. Have that happiness that is already IN your heart, stop searching for it, because it's already there, you just don't know it yet.
This summer don't spend your time giving girls the dirty look and making enemies because you're envious, enjoy your time and have fun, with your friends and family. Stop wishing you were someone else, there are people in this world who would DIE to at least have a house, food, and love.
If you are feeling depressed or insecure, just remind yourself that at least you are cherished with love, shelter, and food.
So go out there and have fun! No need to be hiding away because you fear that all the "popular" girls are going to be outside, so even if they laugh, who cares, at least you have more integrity than them.
Popular girls are not people who stay in one clique and look down at others, they are people who are friendly with everyone.
Rather than focusing on POPULARITY and beauty, boys, makeup..why don't you focus on your studies? Your being offered an education, take the opportunity and do your best. Then in life you can have anything you want, money, success, a happy life. Instead of desperately trying to find a job, regretting the choice of being popular and not taking your studies seriously, wishing you worked hard then.
And stop saying "their all so pretty, I wish I was like them and had all the boys after me.." some of them aren't all THAT beautiful, if you saw them without makeup, some of them aren't really beautiful without it. Even if they still are, who cares? Why do you care? EVERYONE is beautiful. Stop comparing yourself, everyone has a talent. And when you say "all the boys fancy them.." well those boys are PLAYERS.
If they saw those girls without their makeup and padded bras they probably wouldn't take a second look at them, that's why they feel so pressured to look beautiful so boys will like them and spend their time wondering if their not going to like them when they could be focusing more on their education. Yes, it sounds corny, but its the truth.
Genuine boys will see through your looks and notice that you are beautiful in the inside, and admire your kindness, not your looks or your bra size.
Get out there, enjoy yourself and let yourself go! Be confident. Wear what YOU want, not what people tell you to wear. Don't let them bring you down, YOU are YOU, don't change for anyone, be proud in your own skin, you have confidence, you are naturally beautiful.
HOW TO GET YOUR DREAM
If you work hard enough, you can achieve what you want to.
Follow these steps to achieve your goals:
1. Lie down, closing your eyes, and try and see yourself getting what you want. For example, if it's that you want to be more clever, see yourself getting A+ grade reports and passing your GCSE'S with flying colours etc.
2. After about 5 minutes, open your eyes and write down a list of how you can achieve your goal(s). Maybe you want more money, write down some ways you can make money: babysitting, making & selling jewellery, paper round, selling old stuff etc.
3. Say to yourself 'I can achieve my goal, I just need to believe in myself.' Don't listen to others who say you can't do it. How do they know, can they see the future? Even if you fail and you give up hope, you won't get success overnight, it takes time but eventually you'll get there. Go step-by-step, and continue with your hard work.
SUCCESS COMES TO THOSE WHO WORK FOR IT.
So what if some people were born to rich families and have all the money without even doing anything. They DID work for it. All those winning athletes, they WORKED hard for it, training continuously. Cristiano Ronaldo, one of the best football players in the world, was said by his coach to be the last one to leave the pitch, because he had that determination, belief in himself and going to give his 100%.
Doctors: did well in their studies in school, worked hard, got those A grades and now drive expensive Mercedes Benz & live in big houses, this could be YOU if you work hard for it.
QUITTERS NEVER WIN, WINNERS NEVER QUIT.
Winners are always optimistic, have positive thinking. Don't say "I'll never have a worldwide successful clothing company". No, successful people say "Yes, I will have a worldwide successful clothing company. I will be on the top. I will work hard for it, give it my all. Never give up."
When you think negatively about your goal(s), this decreases your motivation levels, making you work LESS hard for it and not achieving it. Your body just goes in "can't be bothered" mode, so you don't push hard enough for it, and therefore won't achieve your goals. Think about it. Has any successful person said 'You know what, I won't do it. I'm never going to be good at it anyway.' No, they said the opposite, meaning they DID achieve it.
You are willing to try, willing to learn.
All you girls out there that have low self esteem, doubt yourself? Don't =) You are more than how you look. Love yourself. If you can't even do that, who will =) We are all beautiful.
You guys are all so freaking beautiful. I love you all so much guys. Keep smiling and never let anybody put you down. Never let anybody take that beautiful smile off your face.
Nobody can decide if you are beautiful. You do. You are.
WHEN A GIRL IS CONFIDENT, THEIR BEAUTY SHINES.
You may be pretty, but if you are not confident, there is no beauty.
BEAUTY IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS, BUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF, YOUR CONFIDENCE & BELIEF, YOUR DETERMINATION & FRIENDLINESS.
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